We get it—messy rooms freak us out too. But there are some pretty compelling reasons to give up the fight and embrace the mess.
The next time you walk by your kid’s messy bedroom, resist the urge to demand a cleanup, and consider just closing the door. Unless there’s a health or safety concern, there are some compelling reasons to let your kid’s messy bedroom stay that way.
1. Parenting is often about picking your battles.
Consider whether the fight for a tidy bedroom is a battle you might be willing to lose in order to save energy for the one you’re not. Dirt can become dangerous, but if it’s just clutter, it isn’t likely to do any real harm.
2. This might be more about you than about your kid.
Some parenting challenges stem from parents’ need for control in the midst of the chaos of life. Think about whether your craving for a clean room is really about what’s best for your kid or maybe more about you.
3. Kids deserve a comfort zone to call their own.
Maybe a messy space isn’t such a bad thing. Many experts believe a kid’s room should be their sanctuary. Consider agreeing on a few ground rules—like laundry goes in the hamper, and dirty plates and food packaging get brought to the kitchen promptly—and then let your kid be.